Self-Care 101: Five Tips for Balancing Exercise and Relaxation (Guest Post)

Self-Care 101: Five Tips for Balancing Exercise and Relaxation (Guest Post)

We all face times where we struggle to find balance between our two important Rs — responsibility and relaxation. From meeting important deadlines to getting a healthy dinner on the table, completing our to-do list shouldn’t require that we sacrifice health and wellness. Prioritizing our physical health is an important aspect of self-care — not only will we be better able to succeed in caring for ourselves, but we’ll be better able to care for others. Find the balance between your two Rs with these tips for balancing your fitness routine with self-care.…continue reading →
What Is a Healing Mindset?

What Is a Healing Mindset?

A healing mindset is much more than just having a positive attitude. It's healing the rift between how we wish we were (or think we should be) and how we actually are from one moment to the next. It's about dropping the exhausting resistance we have to our own emotions. In this video, I'll explore 3 different components of a healing mindset: Presence, Openness, and being Actively Kind (to oneself and others). You'll learn a short practice for each of these different components.continue reading →
Why I Support Single-Payer Healthcare New York

Why I Support Single-Payer Healthcare New York

I just left a sweaty Catholic school gym where 400 members of the Park Slope Food Coop (disproportionately shod in Keen and Birkenstock sandals) voted overwhelmingly to endorse the New York Health Act, a Medicare for all plan that is one state senator away from passing here in New York. I don’t normally write about political issues, and I’m going to continue that tradition today since I believe that healthcare shouldn’t be a political issue. Watch Jimmy Kimmel tearfully explain in a mixture of disgust and gratefulness how, after seeing his newborn son’s…continue reading →

What I Learned from Watching People Swim

I spend a lot of time watching people swim. Recently, I shared a lane with a woman who was in the middle of a four hour (7 miles in total) workout, tirelessly raising the arm, burying the arm deep in the water, rolling to breathe. She was training to swim around the island of Bermuda. Mostly, though, it’s everyday enthusiasts with wildly different approaches to getting across the pool. Some smooth operators carve and glide their way across, making barely a splash as they hunt the fast lane. Other less gainly swimmers smack…continue reading →
Emotional Wellness: How To Take Care Of Yourself (Guest Post by Melissa Howard of stopsuicide.info)

Emotional Wellness: How To Take Care Of Yourself (Guest Post by Melissa Howard of stopsuicide.info)

Emotional Wellness: How To Take Care Of Yourself Guest Post by Melissa Howard of stopsuicide.info In the light of two very publicized and tragic suicides, this post comes from Melissa Howard and the organization stopsuicide.info.   For many Americans, focusing on emotional wellness can be a double-edged sword. In one sense, it’s a good way to ensure that you’re feeling good every day, but it can also bring painful memories or emotions to the forefront, keeping a vicious cycle alive in your mind. Finding a good balance will allow you to take good…continue reading →
May I Be Perfect!

May I Be Perfect!

I was inspired to write this post after teaching a workshop on lovingkindness meditation and smashing one of my daughter’s popsicle molds in anger (in the same week). Lovingkindness meditation is a thousand-year-old tool for dealing with hard-heartedness and isolation. Research continues to emerge about the positive effects of lovingkindness, including decreasing migraines and chronic pain, and activating empathy. Recently, at one of my Your Body Is Your Practice workshops, we offered ourselves the traditional phrases: May I be safe, May I be happy, May I be healthy, May I live with ease.…continue reading →
My Summer Reading Recommendation

My Summer Reading Recommendation

What Sharon Salzberg has contributed to meditation and Buddhism in America is hard to quantify. Nowadays, she is everywhere you look within the recent mindfulness surge (and deservedly so): interviews with Oprah, podcasts with Tim Ferris, magazine articles, and her nine books on the subject. She has become known for her emphasis on the practice of metta, or lovingkindness, and her seminal book on the subject (Lovingkindness). This focus has been particularly needed in the West where the temptation to use meditation and spirituality as another self-improvement project or an attempt to control…continue reading →
Anxiety Generates an Endless To-Do List. Don’t Listen to It.

Anxiety Generates an Endless To-Do List. Don’t Listen to It.

Embedded within everyday anxiety is the hope that if we could only complete the remaining tasks on our to-do lists, then we could rest in an aura of accomplishment and contentment. Anxiety creates its own logic: we should maximize all our moments with doing or thinking about doing. I know it's hard for me to relax when I think about my swollen email inbox. Email has a field day with my adrenal glands. While we know that meditation and self-care ultimately may be good for our productivity and happiness, choosing them in the…continue reading →
Become an Expert in Empathy via this Buddhist Contemplation

Become an Expert in Empathy via this Buddhist Contemplation

I had a stereo speaker as a teenager that would lapse sometimes into a static, distorted blare unless I gave it a good knock on the upper right corner. Some loose wire or circuit board would then jiggle back into place and the music would return clean and powerful. The distance between a headache and a song was only a few millimeters. In my life, pain has similarly alternated between being a source of connection and empathy, as well as shame and isolation. I remember a year of terrible housing luck where my…continue reading →
Here’s How We Are Designed to Sit in Meditation Posture

Here’s How We Are Designed to Sit in Meditation Posture

Do you struggle in meditation posture, or avoid meditation because you assume it's agonizing? I've created a four-point checklist, called STAG, that helps meditators create a posture with stability and openness. Click here to watch Fifteen years ago, I was first given meditation instruction during a time of chaos in my life. The teacher mentioned posture almost as an aside. Be upright. Don’t slump. This worked for about three or four minutes which, considering I was on a weeklong meditation retreat, meant that back pain was to be my transcendent experience. I remember…continue reading →